Non-kink
I'm a college graduate, a former military officer, a published author (in the military and my current occupational field), I've been a mentor and Board member for Big Brothers/Big Sisters, and I've traveled to over a dozen foreign countries - all of which means less and less to my ego the older and wiser I become... Equally at ease from rural camping, jeans/T-shirt & sandals to cocktail hour. Some of my best friends are not as "credentialed" as I, but I have learned more from them about life (and hence myself) than any college course or "job".

I am open to being friends with just about anyone. Our views need not be the same in order to enjoy healthy, lively debate (not argument), a game of darts/pool, or each other's company.

On any given day you can probably find me participating in one of the many local drum circles in the Tampa area. My primary drums are the djembe and dombek. With drumming come dancers! I enjoy watching traditional bellydancing as well as primal or fusion dancing - either skyclad or clothed.

Relationship-wise, I tend to move with deliberate thought, though not in haste.
If you fancy yourself the never ending center of attention, we can be friends, but are likely not compatible for a relationship. I don't aspire to be the loudest voice in any particular room - I aspire to be the voice you hear in the room.
Want to instantly gain my attention? Here are some ways:

•Smile!
•Offer me a neck/shoulder massage - and be good at it...
•Strike up a conversation... about... anything...


Kink-wise:
I am not for everyone. I tend to observe others before taking action - so don't let my initial presentation put you off. If you want to play with me, approach me and start a conversation.

I may be quick to say hello, but I will absolutely not push for you to quickly (within hours or days) be under "protection", "consideration", or in a "relationship" and prohibit your communication(s) with others. I find that "annoyingly humorous" as the doms (emphasis little d) that do so tend to be lesser experienced and/or knowledgeable, and more insecure. Further, those types of "online romances" generally fade as quickly as they are formed. If, as a submissive, you notice that pattern in yourself, please pass me by...

My BDSM style starts "between the ears" and progresses from there. I view myself as a "Thinking Dominant". BDSM play for me does not necessarily encompass sexual play. If I am interested in sexual/sensual play (with or without BDSM as a part), I will ask. If you are interested in sexual/sensual play (with or without BDSM as a part), ASK. I have the abilty to play at various levels of intensity from novice/light to advanced/heavy. If you happen to see me playing at a level that is not on par with yours, don't let that be a drawback. I can increase or decrease the intensity as negotiated. I am aware of my strengths and limitations and am not ego driven. I am open to co-topping as either the lead or secondary.

BTW, my drumming (as mentioned above) has lead to a pronounced affinity for spanking and pummeling impact play.

Limits
- Limits and Boundaries that are disclosed will be respected -
"Soft limits" are open for negotiation to be pushed (yours AND mine).
"Hard limits" are open for discussion only. I want to know the emotional and physical landmines and triggers to avoid.

Sagittarius

Muscular

5' 7 (1.7 m)

Brown

African American

Committed Relationships

No

No

Smile

Black

No pets

No

University Degree

Self-employed

No

Yes - Socially

Quiet One

Flirtatious, Friendly, Observant, Reserved

Camping, Cooking, Learning, Movies, Music, Photography, Reading, Travel

Hanging Out With Friends, Going To A Concert, Reading A Book, Relaxing, The Movies, Trying New Things

Friendly, Someone They Want To Be, A Flirt

Spiritual But Not Religious

I Don't Like Politics

Clever, Dry / Sarcastic

Empathy, Flirtatiousness, Good Looks, Intelligence, Spontaneity, Thoughtfullness, Wit

Friend, Intimate, Committed